《愛情筆記》- 懂愛太遲

Maybe you shouldn't think that whether getting married is right or wrong (BTW, you owe me a red pocket! :p). Life is not like that, when you try to judge something, you can judge it guilty easily cos thing always has two sides.

How about thinking life as your hands, you take this, and that, until you have full hands. Then, you need to give up something on hand in order to get extra things. Try to enjoy your life, and believe that no body is prefect, and we usually feel weak when we try to solve something alone. Do let your husband know what you think and feel, and try to solve any problem if exist. Problems can't be solved by putting it on your back. Face it or bear the pressure.

I have to say that you have problems, anyone has. I am trying to avoid myself from causing others trouble, this is a learning process that may cause us a life long to achieve. But that's worth after all. Looking back to school days is not a good idea, but I could understand that you say this just to make yourself feel better, and you should know that facing the problem is the only way to survive.

Everyone has his / her gift inborn, thinking too much is not a sin, the only thing we need to emphasis is to live happily with someone that we think he / she is important. That could be quite simple.

I feel so sorry that I don't handle the things well after all, as I am not prefect too. And I should thanks for everything you have taught me. It is really a good lesson for me, and I enjoy all moments that we have spent before. Laughters and tears, everything would be good to remember after all. Life is something that goes beyong its appearance.

No need to say thanks, friendship is not something to weight on a balance. Just write to me if you think I could help. :)

P.S. See if you feel interest for the following poem, it was written on the eve before you got marry.

小樓幾許風雨夜，淅瀝秋雨斷腸時，年年月月愁懷在，朝朝暮暮意欄柵。
海旁訂情猶昨日，斜陽黃沙擁玉人，花間鴦盟花下約，世上鴛侶世外仙。
銀河迢迢牛郎怨，深宮寂寂唐皇恨，得失無常惑因果，喜樂隨緣感夙因。
莫忘失意教訓事，記取良辰美好時，瀟洒獨行不著意，逍遙鴻飛去無痕。

《愛情筆記》- 相遇太早

很喜歡周蕙的《相遇太早》，歌詞是寫一對曾經相戀的男女，多年後重逢的感受，感覺頗有一些感觸。

多少年過去，傷痛彷彿已經忘掉，各自已經找到了新的另一半，過去的對錯已不用執著，到底曾經一起度過許多美好的日子。如果真的要找個原因，不如說我們只是相愛太早，當我們還太年輕，對於什么是幸福還不能好好的掌握，於是在太過自我中心之下，讓愛變成了煎熬，付出了所有，卻反而讓彼此因不能承受而分開。


這是多么真實的描述！相愛容易相處難，什么是愛，什么是幸福，要明白還真的不太容易。現代的年輕人，合則來不合則去，從來不願意稍為勉強自己，改變自己來迎接更好的生活，卻不明白人只能在轉變中學習，才能成長起來，邁向新的一天。

人與人之間的關係，不能在一朝一日就建立起來；白馬王子和白雪公主的關係只存在於童話，在現實世界裡沒有所謂的絶配。所以，幸福並不是完全融合的貼心感覺，而是在不合適中找到相處之道；努力把自己的棱角磨平，才是真正融洽相處的方法。

《相遇太早－周蕙》
當我們再度相視微笑
成熟的心有一點蒼老
許多的傷痛都已經忘掉
記憶裡剩下的全是美好

你我都找到新的依靠
過去對錯已不再重要
只是我們都清楚的知道
心裡還有個劃不完的句號

只怪你和我相愛的太早
對于幸福又了解的太少
于是自私讓愛變成煎熬
付出了所有　卻讓彼此想逃跑

上天讓我們相遇的太早
對于緣分卻又給的太少
才讓我們只能陷在回憶中懊惱

真正重要的是肉眼看不到的

After a while you learn the subtle difference betweenholding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning andcompany doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contractsand presents aren't promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats with your headup and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult,not the grief of a child,
And you learn to build all your roads on todaybecause tomorrow's ground is too uncertain forplans.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So plant your garden and decorate your ownsoul, instead of waiting for someone to bring youflowers.
And you learn that you really can endure…
That you really are strong,and you really do have worth.
-《By Veronica A. Shoffstall, age 19》

《小王子》中狐狸給小王子的一個極重要的忠告：真正重要的是肉眼看不到的。

一切可實際捉碰的，其實都不可靠。對一個人來說，親情才是最最重要。什么都可以選擇，只有親人不可以選擇。什么都可能淡化，只有與親人的關係，雖遠猶存。

每個人都是一個孤獨的宇宙，真正屬於你的只有自己。你不能抓緊所愛，只能努力作一個值得被愛的人。建構一切屬於自己的，讓自己成為一個值得被愛的人，而不是抓緊對方不放手，讓雙方同時受傷，在心靈中留下不能磨滅的遺憾。

我曾經相信命運，但現在的我卻更接受一切的發生只是一個機率問題。
　　謀事在人，成事在天。
　　盡已而不求於人。
是我現在的生存哲學。

就像傳說中四葉草的生長，任何人都有同等的機會，只看你有沒有為它提供一個合適的環境。
只要你好好為將來預備，機會來時，就能更好的把握。

而對擁有的，更要好好珍惜。要明白能相遇是緣，但要長久相處，卻不能無份。有緣有份，談何容易？